~A Veteran~

A veteran - whether active duty, retired, national guard or reserve - is someone who, at one point in his life, wrote a blank check made payable to The United States of America, for an amount of "Up to and including my life". That is honor, and there are far too many people in this country who no longer understand it. - Author Unknown

Wednesday, February 10, 2010

A Soldiers' Mother's Crown of Thorns

A soldier deployed to Iraq in 2005. He was awarded several purple hearts, and Army Accommodation awards. He served the unit with honor and professionalism. He saw horrors that he wanted to forget.

When he returned home, he was engaged to a woman that had her sights on over powering him and controlling his mere existence. She was married, but soon got a divorce from her former felonious husband. She was suppose to wait 60 days before getting married, according to the state law, but she decided to leave the state and get married instead. She thought this would nullify the state laws. Perhaps it worked.

Several weeks later, the soldier was busy cleaning his yard preparing for a weekend get away with his new wife and her kids that he embraced as his own. There were several arguments leading up to that day...

That fateful day, the soldier died. He was found hanging in a shed door opening. He was found by the new wife, who promptly called her own daddy to come help her. Her daddy cut the soldier down, and later disposed of the rope. She also called her EX husband, and finally she called 911. The soldier was clean. He had a bruise on one side of his head. Still quite purple and blue. The rope marks were very low at the base of his neck. While he lay in his coffin, his mother traced the rope marks with her finger tips. She wanted to memorize them, and she didnt know why.

His body showed no signs of the 'final attempt' to release himself from the rope, nothing under his nails but the dirt from working in the yard--and the coroner did not bother to clean him up. Had they known this soldier, they would have known how peticular he was about always having clean nail beds. His body had not released from bladder or bowel, there was no signs of blood. The shed door opening was 6ft in height. The soldier was 5'10", and he was on his knees according to the new wife's summary. There was an empty pill bottle next to him with the label missing. The wife said it was his pain killers for his previously injured heel. There were 3 or 4 cans of beer around on the ground, one partially consumed. The others were not opened. This soldier was finicky about his nails, but even more so about his beer. It wasnt his brand. It was however, the new wife's EX husbands.

The coroner said it was suicide. He closed the case, because he also owned the mortuary where the soldier was prepared, and he owned the cemetery (private) where the soldier was buried.

The soldiers' mother has fought for 4 years to prove SHE was the rightful 'owner' of her son and all his belongings. She has a government document, a DD93 that states she is the recipient of his SGLI and she is his Executor of his personal belongings.
However, the STATE decided for the new WIFE.

The soldiers' mother tried a few other angles to get possession of her son's body. She tried to prove the wife was in fact ILLEGALLY married to her son, because of the statue of law in the state specifically related to the 60-day wait.

She hired shoddy lawyers (family law) who had no true desire to help the soldiers' mother, but instead take all of her personal property and the LUMP SUM of the SGLI for 'payment' for doing work on the cases. In the end, the attorneys held possession of her property and a power of attorney to be able to lock the soldiers' mother up in a state insanity hospital.

For 4 years, the soldiers' mother has been trying to peel back the layers of lies, all while fighting with the alleged wife of her son for answers. The mother wants to know why her son would take his life, when he was just 5 weeks into his first marriage. Why would he take his life when he purchased a new vehicle for his new family. Why would he take his life, when he had just gotten an hourly raise at work.

Was he a victim of PTSD like the new wife claimed? He had not exhibited any of the first few signs of PTSD. Did it just come upon him all of a sudden in a single day?

Why didn't the mortician or coroner do an autopsy? Why didn't the police department collect evidence and photographs of the incident? Why isn't there some recourse for the mother of this soldier to get answers??

After 4 years, this soldiers' mother has decided who exactly has the answers. And she plans on getting those answers on Saturday. She is going to ask her son--the soldier--in person.

This mother is willing to leave her other two children (both grown) alone in this world without her, to find the answers she seeks.

Why wont the Army help? Because it is a conflict of interests between helping the mother and helping the spouse. Why wont the courts help? Because the slap shod lawyers never process the correct forms, thus the mothers cases get thrown out, dismissed, or the the new wife's 'criminal defense' attorneys are able to wind through the documents and slip through. Why wont someone tell the truth about what happened that day? Why does this mother feel the need to take her own life to get the answers???

Her crown of thorns.

For 4 years, this soldiers' mother has mourned the death of her son. For 4 years she has lived and breathed his death--never getting closure. For 4 years the new wife of the soldier has been in 3-4 different relationships, had numerous more children, and taunts the soldiers' mother with photos online of his personal belongings.

We may lose a soldiers mother this weekend. Because justice truly is blind.